Everything is broken in Cambodia
It is something volunteers say a lot. We use it in the broadest sense when speaking about an education system in which teachers don’t come to school if they don’t feel like it. Or a health system in which healthcare providers don’t wash their hands. Or the corruption that is rife throughout this impoverished country.
However, we also mean everything is broken in the literal sense. Consumer products are always breaking here. There are no pictures in my blog right now because the new battery for my camera was defective.
The packing list for Peace Corps Cambodia explicitly advised us against bringing clothes we wanted to bring back. I see why now. Washing clothes by hand destroys clothing -- if the dust doesn’t first.
Clothing from here doesn’t fare much better. But, a $90 shirt costs $2 here, so I’m not complaining.
Granted, low-quality consumer goods shouldn’t be much of a surprise in a developing Asian country. There is low human capital and a lack of consumer protection and accountability.
But sometimes the quantity of broken things borders on absurdity. In the course of a single day, I’ve ripped a pair of pants, had a flat tire on a new bike, broken a fan and found a gaping hole in the spigot of my water filter which leaked water all over my floor. This is a heavy day, but not a surprising one.
Sometimes broken things do astonish me, though. Our kitten was nibbling on my computer wire, so I picked him up and gently tossed him on the ground (about a foot) and he landed flat on his face. Who said cats always land on their feet?
These little annoyances can add up to making me quite frustrated, especially when combined with a stomach bug, watching a Cambodian teacher give a monthly test about something he’s never taught, and my being asked a dozen times about my salary.
However, Cambodians seem used to everything being broken. They don’t seem visibly bothered when their radio breaks.
They’re also expert at fixing broken things, although they’ll still break eventually. When another fan broke a year ago, my host-brother wired it back together. I was ready to buy a new spigot for my water filter, but my host-brother offered to glue it back together for me and it hasn’t leaked again (yet).
This speaks to me in many ways. Among Americans, I’d say I buy new things less frequently. But, I’m much more eager than Cambodians to throw things away. They fixed the antenna on my radio twice. They fixed my water filter and fan after I asked them about buying a new one.
It’s not only that it wouldn’t occur to me to fix it, but the way to fix it doesn’t come to me immediately. I think I could figure it out, but my mind is programmed to do other things. It seems Cambodians possess a kind of fix-it intelligence we don’t bother with much in the Western world. As a poorer people, they are probably more mindful of fixing something before replacing it.
There’s also less specialization in their skill set, while we’ve become more specialized, so they dabble in repairing. When something is broken, we instantly go to the mechanic or just throw it away. It seems more time and cost-efficient to focus on our day jobs. Conversely, the host-brother who fixes all of my things is also a pharmacist and a math teacher.
Specialization is known to contribute to economic growth, hence America’s wealth. It’s also clear that the average rural Cambodian is not able to do a lot of things we consider rudimentary. While most people I see on a daily basis don’t know where the Middle East is and can’t use the Internet, they can figure out a way to rig a door on one hinge with no doorknob to function for two years. However, I wonder if we’ve lost a way of problem-solving, and become more wasteful, by being slow to find a creative solution to simple problems.
I don’t wish the “everything is broken” experience on anyone, except as a brief cross-cultural foray. But, like most cross-cultural experiences, it gives us a chance to look critically at our own behaviors and practices, and to grow from it.
Friday, December 17, 2010
Winter!
Ok. There's no snow. And I still don't need a blanket at night or a jacket. But, a lot of Cambodians are wearing jackets. And my students were shivering all morning.
Last year, I wore my sweatshirt once. Still, I think we can hope this year will be colder.
Cold Season/winter in Cambodia usually lasts from December to January. It basically means it's still hot during the day, but cools off in the afternoon and the morning. If I'm lucky, like today, I can go an entire day without sweating, but days like that are rare.
Sometimes, I think we take for granted how heat affects our disposition. I'm generally cheerful, but today's cold left me jubilant. I would say most Cambodians are not hoping for colder days ahead, but I certainly am.
Last year, I wore my sweatshirt once. Still, I think we can hope this year will be colder.
Cold Season/winter in Cambodia usually lasts from December to January. It basically means it's still hot during the day, but cools off in the afternoon and the morning. If I'm lucky, like today, I can go an entire day without sweating, but days like that are rare.
Sometimes, I think we take for granted how heat affects our disposition. I'm generally cheerful, but today's cold left me jubilant. I would say most Cambodians are not hoping for colder days ahead, but I certainly am.
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
A few thoughts on the stampede
I’m sure you’ve heard about the deadly stampede in Phnom Penh a week ago that killed at least 350 festival-goers, mostly women and young people, and left hundreds more injured. Although I’ve been to Phnom Penh many times, I was in my rural village at the time and did not know any of the victims,
But I saw the striking way Cambodians deal with grief on a national scale. I also saw the way news travels in a developing country, where BlackBerrys are unheard of and most people have never used the internet.
The stampede occurred on a bridge during the annual Water Festival. During Water Festival, about two million people from the countryside flock to Phnom Penh, doubling the population. There are so many crowds it’s difficult to go anywhere or see the boats, the main attraction of the festival. The Cambodian heat (where temperatures typically reach 95-100 degrees), while being surrounded by slow-moving people, along with tons of traffic to get into Phnom Penh, did not appeal to me.
Therefore, I was in my rural village the day of the tragedy. The day we heard about the tragedy was typical. Cambodians watched the news a little more, but basically carried on with their day. Peace Corps sent out text messages to ensure we were all OK and I texted a few of my friends in Phnom Penh to make sure they were OK.
The way Cambodians deal with their grief is a little strange for me. Cambodians smile and laugh when they are embarrassed. So, when I was eating breakfast and people were watching the news and another death from my district was announced, the people almost sounded like they were cheering as if watching a sporting event or election returns.
What I perceive as odd behavior has continued over the past two weeks. People in the countryside joke around a lot about the tragedy. A common theme in the jokes is someone wishing someone close to them died so they could get all the money being given out. Families who have a death in the family allegedly receive $12,000 per death, about six times the average yearly income. These donations come from the government, opposition parties, charities and companies. As my friend like to joke, “One woman lost three of her four children on the bridge. When asked about it, she said ‘I only lost three children.’”
When I told people that I was going to Phnom Penh the following weekend, many people asked me if I was going to go “play” at Diamond Island, the site of the stampede. Then they would giggle to each other.
I still do not completely understand why they find it OK to joke like this, but some people said they joke because they are afraid. Perhaps, joking is a way for them to express themselves, as feelings are not openly discussed here (including PTSD and other ramifications from the Khmer Rouge times). I think this short article about a hotline for stampede victims illustrates the lack of awareness about mental health issues:
http://www.phnompenhpost.com/index.php/2010113045050/National-news/stampede-hotline-launched.html
The stampede also sparked many rumors. One was that the day after the stampede, a bus flipped over on another bridge. My host family had all the details down. And my friend in another province heard the exact same story, but it was completely unfounded. I don’t know how untrue things travel so fast around this country.
Due to an undeveloped legal system and lack of transparency (hence the cash payouts for victims), it will be difficult to determine what really happened and who was at fault. From what I’ve read and heard it seemed that this bridge has thousands of people on it. There are reports of some sort of commotion, perhaps from the bridge swaying or someone yelling about danger.
Many people were jammed together, perhaps for many hours. Some people jumped off the bridge while others were trying to climb away and may have been electrocuted.
It is also unclear what the authorities were doing. One report said they fired some sort of water hose at the people on the bridge.
Survivor stories are quite stirring. One blogger spoke with many of the victims and used the accounts to produce a fictional story about a family trapped on the bridge. The parts in bold are allegedly true:
http://h-panharath.blogspot.com/2010/12/festival-of-fun-and-fatal-fiasco.html
For more information about the stampede, I also recommend Google News and Wikipedia.
Since the stampede was the biggest tragedy since the genocide, I imagine Cambodians will talk about it for a long time. If anything interesting occurs, I will be sure to post it here.
But I saw the striking way Cambodians deal with grief on a national scale. I also saw the way news travels in a developing country, where BlackBerrys are unheard of and most people have never used the internet.
The stampede occurred on a bridge during the annual Water Festival. During Water Festival, about two million people from the countryside flock to Phnom Penh, doubling the population. There are so many crowds it’s difficult to go anywhere or see the boats, the main attraction of the festival. The Cambodian heat (where temperatures typically reach 95-100 degrees), while being surrounded by slow-moving people, along with tons of traffic to get into Phnom Penh, did not appeal to me.
Therefore, I was in my rural village the day of the tragedy. The day we heard about the tragedy was typical. Cambodians watched the news a little more, but basically carried on with their day. Peace Corps sent out text messages to ensure we were all OK and I texted a few of my friends in Phnom Penh to make sure they were OK.
The way Cambodians deal with their grief is a little strange for me. Cambodians smile and laugh when they are embarrassed. So, when I was eating breakfast and people were watching the news and another death from my district was announced, the people almost sounded like they were cheering as if watching a sporting event or election returns.
What I perceive as odd behavior has continued over the past two weeks. People in the countryside joke around a lot about the tragedy. A common theme in the jokes is someone wishing someone close to them died so they could get all the money being given out. Families who have a death in the family allegedly receive $12,000 per death, about six times the average yearly income. These donations come from the government, opposition parties, charities and companies. As my friend like to joke, “One woman lost three of her four children on the bridge. When asked about it, she said ‘I only lost three children.’”
When I told people that I was going to Phnom Penh the following weekend, many people asked me if I was going to go “play” at Diamond Island, the site of the stampede. Then they would giggle to each other.
I still do not completely understand why they find it OK to joke like this, but some people said they joke because they are afraid. Perhaps, joking is a way for them to express themselves, as feelings are not openly discussed here (including PTSD and other ramifications from the Khmer Rouge times). I think this short article about a hotline for stampede victims illustrates the lack of awareness about mental health issues:
http://www.phnompenhpost.com/index.php/2010113045050/National-news/stampede-hotline-launched.html
The stampede also sparked many rumors. One was that the day after the stampede, a bus flipped over on another bridge. My host family had all the details down. And my friend in another province heard the exact same story, but it was completely unfounded. I don’t know how untrue things travel so fast around this country.
Due to an undeveloped legal system and lack of transparency (hence the cash payouts for victims), it will be difficult to determine what really happened and who was at fault. From what I’ve read and heard it seemed that this bridge has thousands of people on it. There are reports of some sort of commotion, perhaps from the bridge swaying or someone yelling about danger.
Many people were jammed together, perhaps for many hours. Some people jumped off the bridge while others were trying to climb away and may have been electrocuted.
It is also unclear what the authorities were doing. One report said they fired some sort of water hose at the people on the bridge.
Survivor stories are quite stirring. One blogger spoke with many of the victims and used the accounts to produce a fictional story about a family trapped on the bridge. The parts in bold are allegedly true:
http://h-panharath.blogspot.com/2010/12/festival-of-fun-and-fatal-fiasco.html
For more information about the stampede, I also recommend Google News and Wikipedia.
Since the stampede was the biggest tragedy since the genocide, I imagine Cambodians will talk about it for a long time. If anything interesting occurs, I will be sure to post it here.
Saturday, November 20, 2010
Traffic
I'm going to start talking about traffic in Cambodia more because it is vastly different from traffic in America.
Here's an interesting article about the high frequency of traffic fatalities in Cambodia:
http://www.voanews.com/english/news/asia/Cambodias-Traffic-Casualties-Expected-to-Climb-Despite-New-Safety-Laws--108392894.html
It's definitely true speeding and drunk driving are problems, but I don't think 80% of people wear helmets during the day, at least in the countryside.
Tomorrow, I'll show you what a Cambodia highway looks like, so stay tuned.
Here's an interesting article about the high frequency of traffic fatalities in Cambodia:
http://www.voanews.com/english/news/asia/Cambodias-Traffic-Casualties-Expected-to-Climb-Despite-New-Safety-Laws--108392894.html
It's definitely true speeding and drunk driving are problems, but I don't think 80% of people wear helmets during the day, at least in the countryside.
Tomorrow, I'll show you what a Cambodia highway looks like, so stay tuned.
Wednesday, November 17, 2010
Newborn baby
Isn't he cute? This is a teacher at my school's new baby. He is three days old in this picture.
Notice the pile of money to the left of his head. When people come to see the baby, they give some money and wish the baby good health and happiness.
Usually, the men will also have a drinking party with the father while the mother rests and female relatives take care of everything. The mother does not get to rest at the hospital and has to come back with the baby on the same day as the birth. So, she relies on relatives to take care of her.
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
Interesting things said today:
1. One of my really strong English students asked me what the opposite of democracy was. I told him dictatorship. After discussing the word, he told me the Khmer word for dictatorship: communiss (I think it’s French since a lot of technical words in Khmer come from French or English). In America, we generally associate communism with dictatorship, but my student skipped all the details, as I imagine many Cambodians do. On the other hand, I’ve spoken to Cambodians who think communism is great. One friendly guy in a taxi to Phnom Penh couldn’t stop talking about how great everything was in Bulgaria when he was there in the 1980’s.
2. At a wedding tonight, everyone sitting at my table pointed out that there was another non-Asian person at another table. “Like Jeremy,” they said, but literally the only thing I had in common with this guy physically was that I wasn’t Asian. Can you imagine being at an American wedding and telling a minority that there is another minority at another table?
1. One of my really strong English students asked me what the opposite of democracy was. I told him dictatorship. After discussing the word, he told me the Khmer word for dictatorship: communiss (I think it’s French since a lot of technical words in Khmer come from French or English). In America, we generally associate communism with dictatorship, but my student skipped all the details, as I imagine many Cambodians do. On the other hand, I’ve spoken to Cambodians who think communism is great. One friendly guy in a taxi to Phnom Penh couldn’t stop talking about how great everything was in Bulgaria when he was there in the 1980’s.
2. At a wedding tonight, everyone sitting at my table pointed out that there was another non-Asian person at another table. “Like Jeremy,” they said, but literally the only thing I had in common with this guy physically was that I wasn’t Asian. Can you imagine being at an American wedding and telling a minority that there is another minority at another table?
Saturday, November 13, 2010
Thanksgiving in Cambodia
American holidays give us a little taste of home. Celebrating Thanksgiving together has become a tradition for the Peace Corps Volunteers working in my province. However, our Thanksgiving was far from traditional.
Since they don't celebrate Thanksgiving here, there are no days off for it. So, we celebrated it a bit early. Thanksgiving ingredients are also not easily accessible. And, unlike volunteers in another province, we did not want to go through the trouble of buying our own turkey($12) and killing it ourselves.
By not being traditional about our Thanksgiving, we were able to enhance it. Rather than only enjoying one meal, we cooked and feasted all day and shared our food with my friend's Cambodian host family.
Breakfast included orange juice, a delicious egg scramble and banana pancakes.
Lunch was Mexican food (very American, I know). Here's us with some of the food:
We rolled the tortillas with beer cans.
And then we made pies and brownies for dessert in the late afternoon. The leaves were mailed by the family of another volunteer and kept in an envelope.
To make the pies and brownies, we went down the street to use a local bread oven. When I asked about the temperature of the oven, the young girl told me it was "hot enough." The high tech oven:
So, which looks more tasty: our American food or traditional Cambodian fish paste (prohok), which I am still mostly unable to eat?
Since they don't celebrate Thanksgiving here, there are no days off for it. So, we celebrated it a bit early. Thanksgiving ingredients are also not easily accessible. And, unlike volunteers in another province, we did not want to go through the trouble of buying our own turkey($12) and killing it ourselves.
By not being traditional about our Thanksgiving, we were able to enhance it. Rather than only enjoying one meal, we cooked and feasted all day and shared our food with my friend's Cambodian host family.
Breakfast included orange juice, a delicious egg scramble and banana pancakes.
Lunch was Mexican food (very American, I know). Here's us with some of the food:
We rolled the tortillas with beer cans.
And then we made pies and brownies for dessert in the late afternoon. The leaves were mailed by the family of another volunteer and kept in an envelope.
To make the pies and brownies, we went down the street to use a local bread oven. When I asked about the temperature of the oven, the young girl told me it was "hot enough." The high tech oven:
So, which looks more tasty: our American food or traditional Cambodian fish paste (prohok), which I am still mostly unable to eat?
Wednesday, November 10, 2010
Drinking during the day
This morning, I went to the countryside with the nurses. They gave out Vitamin A and gave vaccinations and I gave a health presentation.
The nurses giving medicine:
If you look closely at the picture, you can see a shot glass and a container of rice wine next to the medical kit:
In between repeating the announcement for villagers to bring their children to see the nurses, the village chief would take shots of rice wine with some friends. It was only 10 am at this point. Yet, no one looked twice, as it is not abnormal for a community leader to knock back a few shots in the morning, even while organizing a local event.
To the village chief's credit, he was helpful to me during my presentation. He read some documents I brought and helped me interact with the audience.
While he was behaving poorly by drinking, he was promoting good health during my presentation. I've learned to accept the positive things people can offer me here, even when they do things I would consider unacceptable in America.
The nurses giving medicine:
If you look closely at the picture, you can see a shot glass and a container of rice wine next to the medical kit:
In between repeating the announcement for villagers to bring their children to see the nurses, the village chief would take shots of rice wine with some friends. It was only 10 am at this point. Yet, no one looked twice, as it is not abnormal for a community leader to knock back a few shots in the morning, even while organizing a local event.
To the village chief's credit, he was helpful to me during my presentation. He read some documents I brought and helped me interact with the audience.
While he was behaving poorly by drinking, he was promoting good health during my presentation. I've learned to accept the positive things people can offer me here, even when they do things I would consider unacceptable in America.
Tuesday, November 9, 2010
Have you eaten rice yet?
Last time I spoke about how often I’m asked about my salary and money. This is common for people wanting to get to know me. As for people who already know me or just being friendly, they always ask if I’ve eaten rice yet. I think it’s the most common question in Cambodia. The question actually translates into “have you eaten rice already or not yet?” And then you answer with “already” or “not yet.”
This neighbor asks me every morning if I've eaten rice yet:
The assumption is that eating rice is inevitable. Cambodians typically eat rice almost every meal and when they are not eating rice, they eat noodles or cake made from rice. At a restaurant, the rice has some food on top of it. If they are eating as a family, they have a bowl of rice and a one or two dishes of fish or meat and vegetables in the middle of the table. They assume that westerners do the same thing, but eat bread instead of rice.
Here are my host-brothers having dinner. In the background, other family members are watching TV:
Statistic of the day: 100-400 million. This is the range of guesses of the global population by the students who I taught geography to today.
This neighbor asks me every morning if I've eaten rice yet:
The assumption is that eating rice is inevitable. Cambodians typically eat rice almost every meal and when they are not eating rice, they eat noodles or cake made from rice. At a restaurant, the rice has some food on top of it. If they are eating as a family, they have a bowl of rice and a one or two dishes of fish or meat and vegetables in the middle of the table. They assume that westerners do the same thing, but eat bread instead of rice.
Here are my host-brothers having dinner. In the background, other family members are watching TV:
Statistic of the day: 100-400 million. This is the range of guesses of the global population by the students who I taught geography to today.
Monday, November 8, 2010
I can’t stress enough how often I’m asked about money and marriage. Here are highlights of three typical conversations from the last two days:
1.When returning from Phnom Penh, I need to take a ferry across the Mekong River. While waiting for the ferry, all the travelers are swarmed by sellers and beggars. I usually take this time to stretch my legs after sharing a vehicle with way too many people.
Last time I was stretching my legs, I got curious about a basket a woman had on her head. I asked the seller and she told me they were frogs. Two other sellers then realized I could speak Khmer and started asking me the usual questions – what’s my nationality, how long have I been in Cambodia, what am I doing here etc.
Then the question turned to marriage and one of the other women asked me if I “wanted” the frog seller. I said no, but she persisted that she would make beautiful children for me. I politely said no thanks.
2.Two or three policemen “patrol” the corner near my house where the dirt road meets the highway. They usually just stand around while nearly everyone who rides by on a motorbike breaks the law by not wearing a helmet. I speak to them a lot when I’m on my way to school.
During our conversation today, they asked me what I will do when I go back to America (most people assume that I don’t actually have to look for a job, I’ll just automatically have one). I always say I want to be a teacher. Then they asked how much teachers make and told me, unsolicited, that they only make $70 a month and wanted to know what police make in America. They were shocked that I didn’t know.
They also asked me when I’ll be getting married. I said maybe in three of four years and they said I would be too old. Then they suggested I get a Khmer wife.
3.At school, two female students I don’t know came to talk to me. After asking me how many siblings I have, and commenting on my Khmer language ability, they asked me how much money I spend in a month. Then one of the girls asked me in English, “doesn’t you married yet?” I said no, I'm only 24. But, she said I was so old and should get married.
So here I am, 24 years old, not married and I don’t know how much money police in America earn in a month.
1.When returning from Phnom Penh, I need to take a ferry across the Mekong River. While waiting for the ferry, all the travelers are swarmed by sellers and beggars. I usually take this time to stretch my legs after sharing a vehicle with way too many people.
Last time I was stretching my legs, I got curious about a basket a woman had on her head. I asked the seller and she told me they were frogs. Two other sellers then realized I could speak Khmer and started asking me the usual questions – what’s my nationality, how long have I been in Cambodia, what am I doing here etc.
Then the question turned to marriage and one of the other women asked me if I “wanted” the frog seller. I said no, but she persisted that she would make beautiful children for me. I politely said no thanks.
2.Two or three policemen “patrol” the corner near my house where the dirt road meets the highway. They usually just stand around while nearly everyone who rides by on a motorbike breaks the law by not wearing a helmet. I speak to them a lot when I’m on my way to school.
During our conversation today, they asked me what I will do when I go back to America (most people assume that I don’t actually have to look for a job, I’ll just automatically have one). I always say I want to be a teacher. Then they asked how much teachers make and told me, unsolicited, that they only make $70 a month and wanted to know what police make in America. They were shocked that I didn’t know.
They also asked me when I’ll be getting married. I said maybe in three of four years and they said I would be too old. Then they suggested I get a Khmer wife.
3.At school, two female students I don’t know came to talk to me. After asking me how many siblings I have, and commenting on my Khmer language ability, they asked me how much money I spend in a month. Then one of the girls asked me in English, “doesn’t you married yet?” I said no, I'm only 24. But, she said I was so old and should get married.
So here I am, 24 years old, not married and I don’t know how much money police in America earn in a month.
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
Profiling in Cambodia
I was away from my village for two weeks, a long time by rural Cambodia standards. As I was walking back from breakfast, I saw a woman and a man pushing a two-wheeled cart piled high with green bananas. I didn’t know them well, but as pretty much the only Westerner in my village – there are some creepy old guys too, but more on that later- everyone knows me.
The woman pushing the cart said she hadn’t seen me in a while and asked where I had been. I told her I was in Vietnam and Phnom Penh. She asked me if I was happy there (direct translation) then commented that I was darker than before. I responded with my usual bit about how in America, we like dark skin (I really meant being tan, but in the Khmer language you are pretty much either black or white). Like most Cambodians, she was shocked by this. She started talking about how white is so much better, then pointed to the man pushing the cart with her and said that he is not pretty because he is so dark.
My generic morning conversation embodies a broader theme in Cambodian culture: Cambodians say what they see and interpret it based on widely-held stereotypes.
Even though Cambodia is a homogeneous society (95% of the population is Khmer Buddhists) profiling is common and tears apart Cambodia’s social fabric. My friend told me that some of the darker people don’t like being in crowds because they are embarrassed about their skin.
I believe a major reason Cambodians value light skin is because it means you are not out in the fields all day. My Cambodian friend also said it is because whiter people are part Chinese and Vietnamese, so are believed to be smarter and better at business. Because of these sentiments, Cambodians like to cover their heads with scarves, wear hats and even use whitening cream.
Some of the profiling is a result of poverty and lack of education. Also, a lot of people have never learned about issues related to difference among people.
However, the culture of generalizing presents dangers to Cambodia as it develops. Cambodia has a large gap between the rich and poor for this stage in its development (wider than Thailand and Vietnam when they were at the same level). As the gap continues to widen and the rich get richer, profiling could further stratify the society, resulting in strife and a breakdown of services.
For example, skin color can increase the likelihood of being pulled over, like in America. Poor farmers, who generally have darker skin, are the ones pulled over on their motobikes for not wearing a helmet. Helmets are required by law, but the law is not well enforced outside of Phnom Penh. In the countryside, the police pull people over for not wearing a helmet, but just ask for a small bribe. They prefer to target poor people because poor people are not influential, so can be exploited. Pulling over a powerful person could mean trouble for the police officer. Skin color is probably one identifying factor in identifying the powerless.
Generalizing also affects Cambodians’ relationships with foreigners. Cambodians profile foreigners based on their appearance and it has offended a lot of people I know.
Although children yell “hello” to me as I ride my bike, until proven otherwise, I am a borang (French person). Sometimes they refer to me as boo borang, directly translated as ‘uncle Frenchy.’ They usually know that America and France are different countries, but some people have been surprised by this information.
If the villagers have met an American before, they assume I must be exactly like that American. The first time I went to have breakfast at a place the volunteer who lived in my village before me liked to go, they started giving me the food and drinks she liked before I even ordered. And if they haven’t met an American before, they assume everything I do is what all Americans like to do. It’s ironic that part of my job as a Peace Corps Volunteer is to represent diverse America in a foreign culture. Yet, a lot of them think everything I do is what all Americans like to do.
Locals also assume foreigners are rich. This makes some sense because travelers who are able to come all the way to a country like Cambodia you must have some money (and Cambodians are usually poor, so when they say rich, it’s relative). In Cambodian culture, it is not rude to ask about money. Some of the first questions I’m always asked when I meet someone is my rent, salary, parents’ salaries and how much money I spend in a month. No matter what answer I give, the questioner thinks I’m rich and that everyone in America is rich. When I go to buy something, the seller gives me a high initial price (usually double what they give Khmer people) and I have to bargain it down. In my village, they know me, so they give me the real price.
I’m almost used to the money conversation at this point. And other observations and assumptions aren’t too brutal because I’m lean and white. Usually, I’m considered handsome, but have been called fat a few times. And, despite being short in America, I’m “big” here.
It’s much more difficult for volunteers from other backgrounds. Cambodians doubt Asian-American and black volunteers are actually Americans. Some minority volunteers have even been accused by their Cambodian co-English teachers of not really knowing English. And black volunteers get told they are not pretty all the time.
Another serious problem here related to generalizing is what my American friends here term “sex-pats” (sex expatriates). These are western men, typically past their prime, who come here to pursue young Cambodian women. These men sometimes hire prostitutes or spend a lot of money to take a typical young Cambodian woman out. If couple marries, the family of the woman usually benefits financially. Two Western men men in their 50’s with wives in their 20’s live in my district. My host-dad jokes that when one of the old men dies, the Cambodian family will get all his money.
I guess we are guilty of profiling as well because we assume all old white guys with scantily clad young Cambodian girls are sex-pats. What’s worse, Cambodians not only assume the same thing, but assume that this is normal behavior in the West. Even some of my more educated, urban Cambodian friends thought this was common practice!
In the end, profiling in Cambodia affects not only their relationships with foreigners but also with each other. However, I've encountered so many friendly Cambodians that I'm confident they can overcome issues with foreigners as they become more educated and meet more foreigners. But within Cambodian society, there are values and status issues that are beyond my comprehension as an outsider. These run deep and are never openly discussed. Because of that, these issues will be more difficult to take on, but I believe education and economic development would go a long way to solve it.
The woman pushing the cart said she hadn’t seen me in a while and asked where I had been. I told her I was in Vietnam and Phnom Penh. She asked me if I was happy there (direct translation) then commented that I was darker than before. I responded with my usual bit about how in America, we like dark skin (I really meant being tan, but in the Khmer language you are pretty much either black or white). Like most Cambodians, she was shocked by this. She started talking about how white is so much better, then pointed to the man pushing the cart with her and said that he is not pretty because he is so dark.
My generic morning conversation embodies a broader theme in Cambodian culture: Cambodians say what they see and interpret it based on widely-held stereotypes.
Even though Cambodia is a homogeneous society (95% of the population is Khmer Buddhists) profiling is common and tears apart Cambodia’s social fabric. My friend told me that some of the darker people don’t like being in crowds because they are embarrassed about their skin.
I believe a major reason Cambodians value light skin is because it means you are not out in the fields all day. My Cambodian friend also said it is because whiter people are part Chinese and Vietnamese, so are believed to be smarter and better at business. Because of these sentiments, Cambodians like to cover their heads with scarves, wear hats and even use whitening cream.
Some of the profiling is a result of poverty and lack of education. Also, a lot of people have never learned about issues related to difference among people.
However, the culture of generalizing presents dangers to Cambodia as it develops. Cambodia has a large gap between the rich and poor for this stage in its development (wider than Thailand and Vietnam when they were at the same level). As the gap continues to widen and the rich get richer, profiling could further stratify the society, resulting in strife and a breakdown of services.
For example, skin color can increase the likelihood of being pulled over, like in America. Poor farmers, who generally have darker skin, are the ones pulled over on their motobikes for not wearing a helmet. Helmets are required by law, but the law is not well enforced outside of Phnom Penh. In the countryside, the police pull people over for not wearing a helmet, but just ask for a small bribe. They prefer to target poor people because poor people are not influential, so can be exploited. Pulling over a powerful person could mean trouble for the police officer. Skin color is probably one identifying factor in identifying the powerless.
Generalizing also affects Cambodians’ relationships with foreigners. Cambodians profile foreigners based on their appearance and it has offended a lot of people I know.
Although children yell “hello” to me as I ride my bike, until proven otherwise, I am a borang (French person). Sometimes they refer to me as boo borang, directly translated as ‘uncle Frenchy.’ They usually know that America and France are different countries, but some people have been surprised by this information.
If the villagers have met an American before, they assume I must be exactly like that American. The first time I went to have breakfast at a place the volunteer who lived in my village before me liked to go, they started giving me the food and drinks she liked before I even ordered. And if they haven’t met an American before, they assume everything I do is what all Americans like to do. It’s ironic that part of my job as a Peace Corps Volunteer is to represent diverse America in a foreign culture. Yet, a lot of them think everything I do is what all Americans like to do.
Locals also assume foreigners are rich. This makes some sense because travelers who are able to come all the way to a country like Cambodia you must have some money (and Cambodians are usually poor, so when they say rich, it’s relative). In Cambodian culture, it is not rude to ask about money. Some of the first questions I’m always asked when I meet someone is my rent, salary, parents’ salaries and how much money I spend in a month. No matter what answer I give, the questioner thinks I’m rich and that everyone in America is rich. When I go to buy something, the seller gives me a high initial price (usually double what they give Khmer people) and I have to bargain it down. In my village, they know me, so they give me the real price.
I’m almost used to the money conversation at this point. And other observations and assumptions aren’t too brutal because I’m lean and white. Usually, I’m considered handsome, but have been called fat a few times. And, despite being short in America, I’m “big” here.
It’s much more difficult for volunteers from other backgrounds. Cambodians doubt Asian-American and black volunteers are actually Americans. Some minority volunteers have even been accused by their Cambodian co-English teachers of not really knowing English. And black volunteers get told they are not pretty all the time.
Another serious problem here related to generalizing is what my American friends here term “sex-pats” (sex expatriates). These are western men, typically past their prime, who come here to pursue young Cambodian women. These men sometimes hire prostitutes or spend a lot of money to take a typical young Cambodian woman out. If couple marries, the family of the woman usually benefits financially. Two Western men men in their 50’s with wives in their 20’s live in my district. My host-dad jokes that when one of the old men dies, the Cambodian family will get all his money.
I guess we are guilty of profiling as well because we assume all old white guys with scantily clad young Cambodian girls are sex-pats. What’s worse, Cambodians not only assume the same thing, but assume that this is normal behavior in the West. Even some of my more educated, urban Cambodian friends thought this was common practice!
In the end, profiling in Cambodia affects not only their relationships with foreigners but also with each other. However, I've encountered so many friendly Cambodians that I'm confident they can overcome issues with foreigners as they become more educated and meet more foreigners. But within Cambodian society, there are values and status issues that are beyond my comprehension as an outsider. These run deep and are never openly discussed. Because of that, these issues will be more difficult to take on, but I believe education and economic development would go a long way to solve it.
Friday, October 1, 2010
Vietnam
From allie's SE asia 2010 |
I’m coming to you from inside the Cu Chi tunnels near Saigon. Well, I’m actually back in Cambodia, but please pretend I’m blogging from the tunnel.
The Cu Chi tunnels are an immense network of small tunnels that the Vietcong used to stage guerilla operations. The guerillas hid in the tunnels by day and farmed at night. The tunnels also protected them from U.S. bombings. Near the tunnels, they set traps, such as this one:
From allie's SE asia 2010 |
The tunnels are incredibly narrow, so only small Vietnamese people and in many cases child soldiers (male or female) could go through them. Big, fat American “enemies” had trouble fitting in. I crouched and walked 20 yards in a tunnel that was expanded for tourists and I was hurting. Guerillas sometimes spent a week in the tunnels if there were a lot of bombings.
Despite the Vietnamese national pride in killing Americans and “kicking the Americans out” (as one of my Vietnamese friends said), the tunnels are also emblematic of the impression Vietnam gave me. Vietnamese people are nationalistic and proud of their history, but just as the tunnels were expanded for tourists, Vietnam is opening up to the world and inviting people to visit.
I encountered Vietnam’s welcoming of foreigners in many forms: people eager to practice their English, street vendors smiling and laughing when we tried Vietnamese food, nationalistic exhibitions that promote peace and cooperation and young, trendy people telling me what they think about Vietnam’s future and interaction with the rest of the world.
Of course, I do not have the intimate view of Vietnam that I have of Cambodia. In Cambodia, I live and work with the rural people who make up most of the population. In Vietnam, I was mainly exposed to the urban elite as a tourist. So the people I met in Vietnam are probably more progressive than the majority of the population that inhabits the countryside.
I went through Vietnam with Allie, a friend from America. We took a boat down the Mekong River from Cambodia to Chau Doc, a fishing village with a population of about 100,000.
View from the Mekong River:
From allie's SE asia 2010 |
At the market in Chau Doc:
From allie's SE asia 2010 |
Our first meal had to be Pho, a Vietnamese noodle soup with beef. The beef is raw and cooks in the soup. We got the Pho from a family-run food cart that had a nice crowd. (When eating street food, always follow the crowds; if people keep going there, they must not be getting sick.) The vendors barely spoke any English, but were delighted as they watched us try the food. The father saw that I liked spicy food and kept trying to get me to eat bigger and bigger peppers.
Then we went for a walk around the park by the water. The park was bustling with women power-walking, children taking karate classes and couples eating food from the various carts and watching their children play. Coming from rural Cambodia, I was happy to see children play in clean areas, sometimes with toys, as opposed to in the dirt, perhaps with garbage.
Allie was blown away when a group of school children surrounded us and started bombarding us with questions in English. At first, we thought this was a trick to rob the foreigners. But, the children genuinely wanted to practice their English and they were too cute for us not to oblige.
Later, another man came up to practice his English and invited us to visit the school where he works. This is common in the Cambodian countryside (when I ride my bike, people frequently pull up next to me on their motos to practice English and I’ve been invited to too many English schools), but I was not expecting it in Vietnam. A student even came up to me at a park in Saigon to practice his English.
After Chau Doc, we made our way to Phu Quoc, a beautiful island, and just relaxed by the beach.
The quiet beach at Phu Quoc:
From allie's SE asia 2010 |
Then we flew to Saigon. Allie and I saw the War Remnants Museum and a nationalist exhibition in front of the opera house. Both contained propaganda about the Vietnam War, but ended with optimism about the future: Vietnam opening up to the world and cooperating with other countries, even America.
After Allie left, I spent a few more days in Saigon. I did the Cu Chi Tunnel tour with a tour group. Then, I spent the last two days in Vietnam with Tony, a friend I made through couchsurfing.com.
Couchsurfing.com is an amazing project. Briefly, it’s a social-networking site designed so people can share experiences and cultures. You mainly use it to meet people when you travel and perhaps for a place to stay. There are various mechanisms that make it safe to use, like being able to recommend other people. For example, when I was looking for people to meet in Saigon, I saw that a lot of people had recommended Tony, a native of Saigon, and wrote about their positive experiences with him.
So, I met Tony for dinner on Friday. He took me to a nice restaurant where we had a hot pot, which was a soup where we cook the meat, seafood and vegetables at the table. We talked a lot about our travel experiences since he works in tourism. We also talked about our lives and made a lot of cultural comparisons, mostly about the standard differences between American and Asian culture. For example, Americans like to directly confront someone, but Asians will avoid confrontation and use a third party to communicate when there is a problem. My host-brothers sometimes come to me when someone else in a family has a problem with something I did. Tony also gave me some great recommendations for places to get breakfast and coffee the next morning.
Tony looking at the hot pot:
From allie's SE asia 2010 |
After following Tony's delicious recommendations, I met Tony again on Saturday. He took me to see some temples and markets. Then, we went to a café where we met up with some of his other friends. The group all spoke English well and wore trendy clothes and had iphones.
Here is us at the café:
From allie's SE asia 2010 |
I ended up spending most of the day with them. For dinner, they took me to a great seafood restaurant where many Vietnamese university students go. We had snails, shrimp and clams, among other foods.
Snail:
From allie's SE asia 2010 |
I also got to hear their thoughts about Vietnam and its future. Vietnam has experienced a lot of economic growth. Although ruled by the Communist Party, the ruling party is described by the economist as “ardently capitalist communists.” I got the sense Tony and his friends were happy that Vietnam was liberalizing. They were all interested in business and shopping and spoke positively of Vietnam interacting with China and other neighbors and being more open in the future.
View of Saigon:
From allie's SE asia 2010 |
Businesses are not fearful to work around attempts at control by the government. Internet providers block facebook.com at the behest of the government. However, Facebook still works in some places because, as Tony pointed out, you can just call the Internet provider and they will unblock it for you.
I look forward to coming back to Vietnam as it continues to open up to the world. I’m interested to see what kind of society emerges from the fusion of capitalism and Vietnamese nationalism. However, I hope most of the people and the food will stay the same.
Friday, June 4, 2010
Health Education
A woman cleans a raw chicken and then eats a bowl of rice with her hands. Naked children play in mud and then their parents peel a rambutan (a small, red spiky fruit) and hand it to them to eat. This is the sort of scene I see all the time in Cambodia, where basic hygiene, like washing one’s hands, is not yet common practice. Poor hygiene adds to Cambodia’s disease burden, which includes serious diarrhea and exotic mosquito born-illnesses. The disease burden contributes to the low life expectancy in Cambodia; the average Cambodian born today is expected to live to be 60. That’s why I devote a lot of time to working with Cambodians to encourage better hygiene practices.
Here is a photo of children in the mud:
Behavioral change is a slow process. However, by empowering community members to speak out about health concerns, people can spread proper health practices. I believe this is crucial for Cambodians to take better care of themselves and for Cambodia to continue to develop.
One thing I do is bike around the district with some of my students. We stop when we see groups of people idly chatting by their houses. We then give them a short presentation about hygiene. When they answer questions at the end, we give them candy or toothbrushes. The toothbrushes come from hotels all over Cambodia because I’ve asked other Peace Corps Volunteers to collect complimentary toothbrushes for me.
Here is a picture of a presentation:
These students are from my summer English Club. Once a week, we focus on health. While teaching about health, I have the students practice their public-speaking skills to explain the health concepts. I do this because, in addition to practicing poor hygiene, most students slouch and speak quietly and quickly because they are too nervous to speak in public. Therefore, it is satisfying when I see students in front of a group smiling, as they interact with the audience during our health education bike rides.
I was also surprised to learn I’ve opened some of my students’ eyes to community service (Most people I work with are already inclined to it). One of my students told me (in English) when we were biking back one day that he was “happy to participate with me” and that this was his first time doing anything like this. His interest was of particular value to me considering I didn’t even expect him to show up. When I announced the bike rides, he told me he didn’t have a bike (he borrowed one) and he is usually busy tending his cows.
My presence makes health campaigns a memorable experience for the audience since many of the rural villagers have never seen a westerner, let alone one who speaks Khmer (albeit with poor pronunciation).
The information I share is also regarded highly. This was pointed out to me after a morning of giving health presentations in the village with the health center staff (a separate program from my English club). A nurse explained to me over rice and soup that Cambodian people don’t trust information from other Cambodians, but they trust information from a white foreigner (having light skin implies you are wealthier and aren’t out in the fields all day, so Cambodians want light skin). The nurse was exaggerating, as Cambodian people like to do when they compliment you, but there is some truth in what he said. Whenever I am sick, everyone I know gives me medical advice that would result in a lawsuit in America. One of my friends got bitten by a feral cat, and the locally prescribed remedy was to put some Chinese balm on it. Luckily, he chose to call the Peace Corps doctor instead.
The health center outreach usually takes place at a village chief or village health volunteer’s house (the district is divided into communes and villages). These houses serve as a rudimentary health clinic. They provide basic information and distribution of things like water filters, but no medicine or expert consultation. Local health services are essential, since health centers and hospitals can be too far for a poor villager to go. Many villagers live ten miles from a health center and most live 20 from an actual hospital. It is also difficult for a villager to miss a day of rice farming or leave their animals unattended.
The village chief sometimes invites villagers to come to the health outreach with a loudspeaker that can go nearly a half-mile. This is necessary because the villages are so spread out and the nurses only go to each village once every two months. While I like the loudspeakers when they are providing health services, I dislike them when they are used to promote a social event. 4 am announcements for a festival or all-night wedding music are not uncommon, as there are no noise ordinances in Cambodia.
It’s interesting how something as simple as washing hands is institutionalized in a society. In America, we take for granted how easy it is to find a sink, soap and a clean towel, all right next to each other. When I eat lunch at my host-family’s shop, I keep a clean towel in my bag to dry my hands and the place where I wash my hands and where the soap is kept are far apart. I’m the only one in my host-family who washes my hands before meals.
The lack of hand-washing is present in the medical establishment as well. I’ve been to offices staffed by doctors, who are supposed to monitor health in large areas, but lack soap and towels in the bathroom!
Alcohol is also a serious problem in Cambodia. A Cambodian drinking party, which frequently occurs in the middle of the work day, consists of men sitting around a table. The drinks of choice are beer with ice or rice wine that burns as it goes down (Rice wine translates from Khmer to English as white wine and I go through pains trying to explain that we drink white wine made from grapes in America. They find the idea of our white wine revolting, oddly enough). There are usually some peanuts and meat - dog meat is sometimes served at this time. No one takes a sip of their drink unless everyone takes a sip. If anyone is drinking too slow or does not drink when the rest of the group drinks, they are ridiculed and badgered until they drink more, as if they are a college freshman trying to get into the drunkest fraternity. This is the norm; high ranking officials and the poorest farmers drink in this manner regularly regardless of age.
While there are radio and TV ads encouraging good hygiene, not much is being done about alcoholism in Cambodia. However, Samon (the teacher I do a lot of projects with) and a group have been spearheading the effort locally, by biking around the village to educate people about alcoholism and having community meetings to discuss it. His group wants to get a law passed so children under 16 cannot buy alcohol (there is currently no law about who can buy alcohol).
Here, we stopped at one of the drinking parties. Usually they are friendly, but sometimes drunk people can be angry or rude as you’d imagine:
Some of our group with their bikes and our posters:
When we give the presentation, we show pictures of the heart, liver and brain and talk about the effects long-term alcohol use can have:
This home-made poster talks about some of the dangers of excessive alcohol use:
The top right is a sick person. Many people in the rural areas listen to traditional healers who tell them that alcohol can cure their illnesses. During one presentation, a person was trying to tell us that even though raw toad is poisonous, if you mix it with rice wine, it becomes medicine.
Here I am, explaining some of the pictures:
At my English club, I was teaching students how to talk about their daily schedules. One student explained how in the evenings he does housework, watches TV and then has dinner. Another student, who is usually shy, says “You forgot something.” We all wonder what. Then the quiet student explains, “You forgot that you need to wash your hands before you eat dinner.”
Here is a photo of children in the mud:
From blog 8-10 |
Behavioral change is a slow process. However, by empowering community members to speak out about health concerns, people can spread proper health practices. I believe this is crucial for Cambodians to take better care of themselves and for Cambodia to continue to develop.
One thing I do is bike around the district with some of my students. We stop when we see groups of people idly chatting by their houses. We then give them a short presentation about hygiene. When they answer questions at the end, we give them candy or toothbrushes. The toothbrushes come from hotels all over Cambodia because I’ve asked other Peace Corps Volunteers to collect complimentary toothbrushes for me.
Here is a picture of a presentation:
From hygiene bike ride july 2010 |
These students are from my summer English Club. Once a week, we focus on health. While teaching about health, I have the students practice their public-speaking skills to explain the health concepts. I do this because, in addition to practicing poor hygiene, most students slouch and speak quietly and quickly because they are too nervous to speak in public. Therefore, it is satisfying when I see students in front of a group smiling, as they interact with the audience during our health education bike rides.
I was also surprised to learn I’ve opened some of my students’ eyes to community service (Most people I work with are already inclined to it). One of my students told me (in English) when we were biking back one day that he was “happy to participate with me” and that this was his first time doing anything like this. His interest was of particular value to me considering I didn’t even expect him to show up. When I announced the bike rides, he told me he didn’t have a bike (he borrowed one) and he is usually busy tending his cows.
My presence makes health campaigns a memorable experience for the audience since many of the rural villagers have never seen a westerner, let alone one who speaks Khmer (albeit with poor pronunciation).
The information I share is also regarded highly. This was pointed out to me after a morning of giving health presentations in the village with the health center staff (a separate program from my English club). A nurse explained to me over rice and soup that Cambodian people don’t trust information from other Cambodians, but they trust information from a white foreigner (having light skin implies you are wealthier and aren’t out in the fields all day, so Cambodians want light skin). The nurse was exaggerating, as Cambodian people like to do when they compliment you, but there is some truth in what he said. Whenever I am sick, everyone I know gives me medical advice that would result in a lawsuit in America. One of my friends got bitten by a feral cat, and the locally prescribed remedy was to put some Chinese balm on it. Luckily, he chose to call the Peace Corps doctor instead.
The health center outreach usually takes place at a village chief or village health volunteer’s house (the district is divided into communes and villages). These houses serve as a rudimentary health clinic. They provide basic information and distribution of things like water filters, but no medicine or expert consultation. Local health services are essential, since health centers and hospitals can be too far for a poor villager to go. Many villagers live ten miles from a health center and most live 20 from an actual hospital. It is also difficult for a villager to miss a day of rice farming or leave their animals unattended.
The village chief sometimes invites villagers to come to the health outreach with a loudspeaker that can go nearly a half-mile. This is necessary because the villages are so spread out and the nurses only go to each village once every two months. While I like the loudspeakers when they are providing health services, I dislike them when they are used to promote a social event. 4 am announcements for a festival or all-night wedding music are not uncommon, as there are no noise ordinances in Cambodia.
It’s interesting how something as simple as washing hands is institutionalized in a society. In America, we take for granted how easy it is to find a sink, soap and a clean towel, all right next to each other. When I eat lunch at my host-family’s shop, I keep a clean towel in my bag to dry my hands and the place where I wash my hands and where the soap is kept are far apart. I’m the only one in my host-family who washes my hands before meals.
The lack of hand-washing is present in the medical establishment as well. I’ve been to offices staffed by doctors, who are supposed to monitor health in large areas, but lack soap and towels in the bathroom!
Alcohol is also a serious problem in Cambodia. A Cambodian drinking party, which frequently occurs in the middle of the work day, consists of men sitting around a table. The drinks of choice are beer with ice or rice wine that burns as it goes down (Rice wine translates from Khmer to English as white wine and I go through pains trying to explain that we drink white wine made from grapes in America. They find the idea of our white wine revolting, oddly enough). There are usually some peanuts and meat - dog meat is sometimes served at this time. No one takes a sip of their drink unless everyone takes a sip. If anyone is drinking too slow or does not drink when the rest of the group drinks, they are ridiculed and badgered until they drink more, as if they are a college freshman trying to get into the drunkest fraternity. This is the norm; high ranking officials and the poorest farmers drink in this manner regularly regardless of age.
From blog 8-10 |
While there are radio and TV ads encouraging good hygiene, not much is being done about alcoholism in Cambodia. However, Samon (the teacher I do a lot of projects with) and a group have been spearheading the effort locally, by biking around the village to educate people about alcoholism and having community meetings to discuss it. His group wants to get a law passed so children under 16 cannot buy alcohol (there is currently no law about who can buy alcohol).
Here, we stopped at one of the drinking parties. Usually they are friendly, but sometimes drunk people can be angry or rude as you’d imagine:
From blog june 2010 |
Some of our group with their bikes and our posters:
From blog june 2010 |
When we give the presentation, we show pictures of the heart, liver and brain and talk about the effects long-term alcohol use can have:
From blog june 2010 |
This home-made poster talks about some of the dangers of excessive alcohol use:
From blog june 2010 |
The top right is a sick person. Many people in the rural areas listen to traditional healers who tell them that alcohol can cure their illnesses. During one presentation, a person was trying to tell us that even though raw toad is poisonous, if you mix it with rice wine, it becomes medicine.
Here I am, explaining some of the pictures:
From blog june 2010 |
At my English club, I was teaching students how to talk about their daily schedules. One student explained how in the evenings he does housework, watches TV and then has dinner. Another student, who is usually shy, says “You forgot something.” We all wonder what. Then the quiet student explains, “You forgot that you need to wash your hands before you eat dinner.”
From hygiene bike ride july 2010 |
Saturday, May 8, 2010
Khmer New Year
Khmer New Year usually consists of lots of family time, feasts and dancing. The official holiday is three days long (April 14-16), but school closes for five weeks and there is holiday cheer in the air for at least two weeks leading up to the holiday.
Depending on the occupation and wealth of the family, the holiday can last between one day and a week. For example, farmers, even though they are usually poor, have a lot of time to celebrate the holiday since it is not harvest or planting time. Sellers at the market, like my family, even if they are rich, need to work because business is good during Khmer New Year. And the extremely wealthy can celebrate a long time, while those who are poor do not celebrate much because they do not have enough money.
The holiday requires buying lots of food and drinks and making donations at pagodas or dance sites where people congregate. So, Khmer people spend a lot of money during the holiday. Following the holiday, I asked people if they “were happy on Khmer New Year.” Most people would say yes, but the reason a lot of people said no was because they did not have any money.
As a result of the cost of celebrating, many thefts occur around the holiday because people want money. My family said business was great during Khmer New Year, but afterward, it was not good because people spent all their money.
April 13
The day before Khmer New Year, I went on a bike ride to different pagodas with Samon (a teacher I work with on projects a lot) and some students. The students who attended are a lot of my students who are active in the community. We had planned to play a lot of traditional Khmer games and talk about not drinking too much on the holiday (any time Cambodian people have free time, excessive binge drinking occurs), but we mostly just played games. Many games resembled western games, like duck duck goose, tug of war and tag.
This game was my favorite. On one end of an area are two full water bottles and on one end are two empty water bottles. The participants race each other to fill the empty ones. But, they have to transport the water across the area from one water bottle to another in their mouths.
Cows are always wondering around Cambodia. No big deal, we just chase them away.
April 14 (Day 1)
By 10 AM, the festivities had begun. Most of the men in my extended host family got together.
All the men enjoying food and beer. . .
… while the women cook.
April 15
The next day, I spent time with Samon and his family. They made Khmer traditional cakes, which are basically rice with either banana or sugar wrapped in a banana leaf. But, the wrapping process is excessively complicated. I couldn’t do it.
Then Samon and I went for a walk, stopping at a few small dance parties.
Khmer children love climbing trees. No one seems concerned about their safety.
Samon and I with blue tongues after eating the berries that the tree climber gave us.
April 16 (Day 3 and my birthday)
Khmer people to not celebrate birthdays except for old rich people, so my birthday was uneventful, except for some phone calls from America.
At least there were parties though.
One Khmer New Year tradition is to put powder on people. It’s supposedly came about as an excuse so the opposite sex can touch each other for once, but it’s also a way for kids to be cute.
April 17 (Day 4?)
Some people continued to celebrate for a few more days, but I was partied out.
Khmer New Year was interesting and I enjoyed going to a lot of different places. I’m also happy to get back to work. In my next post, I’ll talk about some the health education I’ve been doing in the rural villages with the health center staff.
Depending on the occupation and wealth of the family, the holiday can last between one day and a week. For example, farmers, even though they are usually poor, have a lot of time to celebrate the holiday since it is not harvest or planting time. Sellers at the market, like my family, even if they are rich, need to work because business is good during Khmer New Year. And the extremely wealthy can celebrate a long time, while those who are poor do not celebrate much because they do not have enough money.
The holiday requires buying lots of food and drinks and making donations at pagodas or dance sites where people congregate. So, Khmer people spend a lot of money during the holiday. Following the holiday, I asked people if they “were happy on Khmer New Year.” Most people would say yes, but the reason a lot of people said no was because they did not have any money.
As a result of the cost of celebrating, many thefts occur around the holiday because people want money. My family said business was great during Khmer New Year, but afterward, it was not good because people spent all their money.
April 13
The day before Khmer New Year, I went on a bike ride to different pagodas with Samon (a teacher I work with on projects a lot) and some students. The students who attended are a lot of my students who are active in the community. We had planned to play a lot of traditional Khmer games and talk about not drinking too much on the holiday (any time Cambodian people have free time, excessive binge drinking occurs), but we mostly just played games. Many games resembled western games, like duck duck goose, tug of war and tag.
From pre-khmer new year 2010 |
From pre-khmer new year 2010 |
This game was my favorite. On one end of an area are two full water bottles and on one end are two empty water bottles. The participants race each other to fill the empty ones. But, they have to transport the water across the area from one water bottle to another in their mouths.
From pre-khmer new year 2010 |
From pre-khmer new year 2010 |
From pre-khmer new year 2010 |
From pre-khmer new year 2010 |
Cows are always wondering around Cambodia. No big deal, we just chase them away.
From pre-khmer new year 2010 |
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April 14 (Day 1)
By 10 AM, the festivities had begun. Most of the men in my extended host family got together.
All the men enjoying food and beer. . .
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… while the women cook.
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April 15
The next day, I spent time with Samon and his family. They made Khmer traditional cakes, which are basically rice with either banana or sugar wrapped in a banana leaf. But, the wrapping process is excessively complicated. I couldn’t do it.
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Then Samon and I went for a walk, stopping at a few small dance parties.
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Khmer children love climbing trees. No one seems concerned about their safety.
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Samon and I with blue tongues after eating the berries that the tree climber gave us.
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April 16 (Day 3 and my birthday)
Khmer people to not celebrate birthdays except for old rich people, so my birthday was uneventful, except for some phone calls from America.
At least there were parties though.
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One Khmer New Year tradition is to put powder on people. It’s supposedly came about as an excuse so the opposite sex can touch each other for once, but it’s also a way for kids to be cute.
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April 17 (Day 4?)
Some people continued to celebrate for a few more days, but I was partied out.
Khmer New Year was interesting and I enjoyed going to a lot of different places. I’m also happy to get back to work. In my next post, I’ll talk about some the health education I’ve been doing in the rural villages with the health center staff.
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
Bamboo Train
Over the summer, I rode the bamboo train to a remote village to learn about rural health education. It was raining, so I didn't bring my camera, which I regret. It was especially unfortunate because I did not expect to ride the train again. Luckily, I found an article about the train, which also includes a picture:
http://tinyurl.com/2uv7xqw
(if the link doesn't work, the article is called "End of the line for Cambodia's bamboo trains" from the LA Times)
Notice the 5th paragraph, which is particularly accurate in my case. We were usually the lighter train, so had to get off and take the entire train off the track.
http://tinyurl.com/2uv7xqw
(if the link doesn't work, the article is called "End of the line for Cambodia's bamboo trains" from the LA Times)
Notice the 5th paragraph, which is particularly accurate in my case. We were usually the lighter train, so had to get off and take the entire train off the track.
Sunday, April 11, 2010
How lonely and bored am I actually?
There is this notion of Peace Corps Volunteers, out in the middle of the jungle in a straw hut by themselves. They don’t have much to do, so it’s just them on a hammock with a pile of books. Right now, this is sort of my life, only it’s a big cement house and my books are on a shelf. But even now, during the hottest month leading up to Khmer New Year, my life is interesting. And, I’m certainly never bored.
What I’m talking about here is only my personal experience in Cambodia. I am lucky that I have a few coworkers that are fairly committed to teaching and interested in doing projects to help their community. The truth is, it’s hard to projects here if you don’t have Cambodian people who take ownership of the projects. I know one volunteer who lives in a place where no one ever comes to school. He is in a very rural place and some volunteers live in more urban areas, as well.
The way my district is laid out is also to my advantage. My house, the market, the school and the health center are close together. So, I walk everywhere. I’m fairly outgoing and Cambodian people love talking to foreigners, so I spend a lot of time practicing my Khmer and making connections in my community. I’m always learning something new about Khmer culture and it’s still exciting to meet new people.
Typically, between teaching, networking, practicing Khmer and projects, I’m usually kept pretty busy for most of the day, especially by Peace Corps Cambodia standards. On a typical day, I only get to try to make a dent in my shelf full of books for one or two hours.
What about loneliness? You’d think being around people almost all day and being busy would prevent me from being homesick and lonely. Most of the time, this is the case. Some days, I really do miss people though (and food! It’s just not the same, even in Phnom Penh). It’s not only being homesick, but what I like to call being “culture sick.” Since the language and culture are different here, things don’t function as I perceive to be normal. For example, people talk about different things here and handle social interactions differently. It wearss on me sometimes.
There’s also the issue of being pretty much the only foreigner where I live, and even when I go to Phnom Penh I stand out. In my district, people always want to talk to me, which is usually nice, but can occasionally be bothersome. People also tend to think that I have deep pockets since I’m a foreigner. Now that a lot of people know me in my district, this is less of a problem, but I still occasionally have a seller trying to quadruple the price of something that I bought from the same stand for the real price a few days ago. In Phnom Penh, they can’t believe that I could possibly want to walk somewhere. I must want a moto or a tuk tuk (a cart pulled by a motorcycle), so they constantly ask me if I want a ride.
Overall though, loneliness, homesickness and culture sickness have not been a problem. Perhaps the summer could be troublesome if the projects I want to do don’t get off the ground, but during this vacation I have lots of downtime and it’s been great.
As I’ve mentioned, Cambodia gradually shuts down leading up to Khmer New Year (April 14-16). I have not had school in weeks and other things stop as people spend more time with family and relaxing. This is a chance for me to read a lot more. I also spend time with my Cambodian friends. I am invited to celebrations and festivals that families have to honor their ancestors. I also just walk around and chat with my neighbors.
I never eat my meals alone. I eat my breakfast at a variety of food stall and all the sellers know me and we chat, or I meet new people who are also eating there. Then, I eat lunch and dinner with my host-family. They are a bunch of jokers. After lunch the other day, they were telling me that they want my Peace Corps friend from another district to switch places with me because they want another girl in the family. I knew they were joking, but afterward, one of my host-brothers, who I help with English sometimes, made certain to clarify for me: “They don’t really want you to leave; they just want to make you happy after lunch.”
It’s all about being happy in Cambodia. “How are you?” directly translates to “happy?” Two common questions I’m asked if I’m happy when I come to Cambodia and if I miss home. I answer yes to both.
Note: April is also great because it’s mango season! One mango costs between 200 and 500 riel (4-13 cents). I usually eat between two and six a day.
What I’m talking about here is only my personal experience in Cambodia. I am lucky that I have a few coworkers that are fairly committed to teaching and interested in doing projects to help their community. The truth is, it’s hard to projects here if you don’t have Cambodian people who take ownership of the projects. I know one volunteer who lives in a place where no one ever comes to school. He is in a very rural place and some volunteers live in more urban areas, as well.
The way my district is laid out is also to my advantage. My house, the market, the school and the health center are close together. So, I walk everywhere. I’m fairly outgoing and Cambodian people love talking to foreigners, so I spend a lot of time practicing my Khmer and making connections in my community. I’m always learning something new about Khmer culture and it’s still exciting to meet new people.
Typically, between teaching, networking, practicing Khmer and projects, I’m usually kept pretty busy for most of the day, especially by Peace Corps Cambodia standards. On a typical day, I only get to try to make a dent in my shelf full of books for one or two hours.
What about loneliness? You’d think being around people almost all day and being busy would prevent me from being homesick and lonely. Most of the time, this is the case. Some days, I really do miss people though (and food! It’s just not the same, even in Phnom Penh). It’s not only being homesick, but what I like to call being “culture sick.” Since the language and culture are different here, things don’t function as I perceive to be normal. For example, people talk about different things here and handle social interactions differently. It wearss on me sometimes.
There’s also the issue of being pretty much the only foreigner where I live, and even when I go to Phnom Penh I stand out. In my district, people always want to talk to me, which is usually nice, but can occasionally be bothersome. People also tend to think that I have deep pockets since I’m a foreigner. Now that a lot of people know me in my district, this is less of a problem, but I still occasionally have a seller trying to quadruple the price of something that I bought from the same stand for the real price a few days ago. In Phnom Penh, they can’t believe that I could possibly want to walk somewhere. I must want a moto or a tuk tuk (a cart pulled by a motorcycle), so they constantly ask me if I want a ride.
Overall though, loneliness, homesickness and culture sickness have not been a problem. Perhaps the summer could be troublesome if the projects I want to do don’t get off the ground, but during this vacation I have lots of downtime and it’s been great.
As I’ve mentioned, Cambodia gradually shuts down leading up to Khmer New Year (April 14-16). I have not had school in weeks and other things stop as people spend more time with family and relaxing. This is a chance for me to read a lot more. I also spend time with my Cambodian friends. I am invited to celebrations and festivals that families have to honor their ancestors. I also just walk around and chat with my neighbors.
I never eat my meals alone. I eat my breakfast at a variety of food stall and all the sellers know me and we chat, or I meet new people who are also eating there. Then, I eat lunch and dinner with my host-family. They are a bunch of jokers. After lunch the other day, they were telling me that they want my Peace Corps friend from another district to switch places with me because they want another girl in the family. I knew they were joking, but afterward, one of my host-brothers, who I help with English sometimes, made certain to clarify for me: “They don’t really want you to leave; they just want to make you happy after lunch.”
It’s all about being happy in Cambodia. “How are you?” directly translates to “happy?” Two common questions I’m asked if I’m happy when I come to Cambodia and if I miss home. I answer yes to both.
Note: April is also great because it’s mango season! One mango costs between 200 and 500 riel (4-13 cents). I usually eat between two and six a day.
Thursday, March 25, 2010
Weddings
Sorry I haven’t posted in a while. I’ve been really busy with teaching and projects, but now things are slowing down. I have one more big project this weekend, and then there’s pretty much 4-6 weeks of no school for the Khmer New Year (April 14-16). Yes, a three day holiday requires that much time off from school.
Another thing I’ve been busy with is Khmer weddings because it’s wedding season. Wedding season is in the dry season so that they don’t have to worry about rain. I’ll give you a rundown of my co-teacher Sopheap’s weddings.
Sopheap and his fiancee been engaged for almost a year, but they had to wait until wedding season and he had to save up for the dowry. Khmer weddings are a combination of independent courtship and family approval and arrangement. I believe Sopheap met his wife on his own, but their families knew each other.
A few weeks before the wedding, the couple and their relatives give invitations to their friends. But, there is no need to rsvp, just come or don’t come.
Khmer people like going to weddings, but usually money determines if they go. Instead of giving gifts, Khmer people put cash in the invitation envelope and then they have to go to a table where they record how much they give. So, poorer families may have trouble going to all the weddings that they are invited to.
Some Peace Corps Volunteers are bothered by weddings because Khmer people only invite them because they think foreigners have a lot of money. I am lucky that the people who invite me to weddings just want me to be happy there and don’t want me to give money. I always try to give the standard amount, but my Khmer friends always try to drag me away from the table before I can give the money.
Weddings are usually one day, but can sometimes be more. Sopheap’s wedding was one day. Most guests don’t arrive until the evening. The morning involves a lot of pictures and kneeling. During the whole ceremony, the bride and groom change clothes a lot. Here is them in one of their outfits:
This wedding was particularly fun because a few other Peace Corps Volunteers came and they decided to get traditional Khmer make-up. I thought they looked goofy, but all the Khmer people thought they looked very pretty. The three girls on the right are wearing traditional Khmer make-up:
When you arrive at a wedding, you are given a seat and have to wait for everyone to be seated at your table before you are given food and drinks. So, it’s good to arrive with your friends.
Here is me with the vice-school director and one of my other co-teachers, Solen (right):
Here is me with Solen and a biology teacher:
The food is always really good at weddings and usually involves a few courses. Some wedding tables are tamer than others, but most of the weddings I’ve been at involve a lot of drinking.
The groom doesn’t drink much, but sometimes he cheers with guests, or the vice school director forces him to drink.
Then people start dancing. Khmer dancing is mostly a lot of slow, semi-graceful arm-waving and twisting. Men dance with men and women dance with women. For me, it involves a lot of drunk Khmer guys grabbing me and dragging me to the dance floor. Luckily, there is no touching involved in the actual dancing.
Weddings sometimes go until about 3am and keep all the neighbors from sleeping, but I left this one a little earlier. Now wedding season is ending and Khmer New Year season is beginning and April looks to be quite hot. I don't think I can write a blog-post about Cambodia without finding somewhere to comment on the heat and April is supposedly the hottest month. Wish me luck.
Another thing I’ve been busy with is Khmer weddings because it’s wedding season. Wedding season is in the dry season so that they don’t have to worry about rain. I’ll give you a rundown of my co-teacher Sopheap’s weddings.
Sopheap and his fiancee been engaged for almost a year, but they had to wait until wedding season and he had to save up for the dowry. Khmer weddings are a combination of independent courtship and family approval and arrangement. I believe Sopheap met his wife on his own, but their families knew each other.
A few weeks before the wedding, the couple and their relatives give invitations to their friends. But, there is no need to rsvp, just come or don’t come.
Khmer people like going to weddings, but usually money determines if they go. Instead of giving gifts, Khmer people put cash in the invitation envelope and then they have to go to a table where they record how much they give. So, poorer families may have trouble going to all the weddings that they are invited to.
Some Peace Corps Volunteers are bothered by weddings because Khmer people only invite them because they think foreigners have a lot of money. I am lucky that the people who invite me to weddings just want me to be happy there and don’t want me to give money. I always try to give the standard amount, but my Khmer friends always try to drag me away from the table before I can give the money.
Weddings are usually one day, but can sometimes be more. Sopheap’s wedding was one day. Most guests don’t arrive until the evening. The morning involves a lot of pictures and kneeling. During the whole ceremony, the bride and groom change clothes a lot. Here is them in one of their outfits:
From sopheap's wedding |
This wedding was particularly fun because a few other Peace Corps Volunteers came and they decided to get traditional Khmer make-up. I thought they looked goofy, but all the Khmer people thought they looked very pretty. The three girls on the right are wearing traditional Khmer make-up:
From sopheap's wedding |
When you arrive at a wedding, you are given a seat and have to wait for everyone to be seated at your table before you are given food and drinks. So, it’s good to arrive with your friends.
Here is me with the vice-school director and one of my other co-teachers, Solen (right):
From sopheap's wedding |
Here is me with Solen and a biology teacher:
From sopheap's wedding |
The food is always really good at weddings and usually involves a few courses. Some wedding tables are tamer than others, but most of the weddings I’ve been at involve a lot of drinking.
From sopheap's wedding |
The groom doesn’t drink much, but sometimes he cheers with guests, or the vice school director forces him to drink.
From sopheap's wedding |
Then people start dancing. Khmer dancing is mostly a lot of slow, semi-graceful arm-waving and twisting. Men dance with men and women dance with women. For me, it involves a lot of drunk Khmer guys grabbing me and dragging me to the dance floor. Luckily, there is no touching involved in the actual dancing.
From sopheap's wedding |
From sopheap's wedding |
Weddings sometimes go until about 3am and keep all the neighbors from sleeping, but I left this one a little earlier. Now wedding season is ending and Khmer New Year season is beginning and April looks to be quite hot. I don't think I can write a blog-post about Cambodia without finding somewhere to comment on the heat and April is supposedly the hottest month. Wish me luck.
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